How to survive a cheating husband
A cheating husband will always be a heavy blow for the second half. Psychologists have a lot of answers why men do that. But that's only how to survive a cheating husband.
To begin with you should understand the fact of treason. It is worth considering that single case of adultery "stupidity" or "could not resist" cannot be compared with regular Hiking husband left. If it's the latter, then all should consider: whether You need a man ?
So it turns out that many women suffer constant betrayals because of their children. And it's really very hard and humiliating to live with a man who sees his wife as something due. And if he also loves another.
If it's a one-time event. and a woman accidentally finds out about her or becomes an unwitting witness herself, the pain of realizing that she was lied to is gradually driving her crazy. Constantly begin to spin in my head thoughts: "What did I do wrong?", "Why did it happen?", "For what?", Etc. How to survive the betrayal of a husband, if everything you believe in is falling apart in an instant ?
Here is a woman to think: exactly what she wants. After all, if she does not want to know this person any more, it will be more appropriate to divorce. But if the love for her husband is stronger, then you should think about what you can do in this situation and how to cope with nervous tension.
There are five steps. who will explain how to survive the betrayal of her husband, and help to save the family.
The first step. step back. If you find out today that your husband is cheating on you, or if you yourself found him on the other, step back from the situation. At this stage, scandals, tears and reproaches are undesirable. They only aggravate the situation.
If possible, move to a friend. If this is not possible, then just cut off from her husband, create a personal space. in which he will not be present, and in which he cannot intervene. Pretend it doesn't exist. Importantly, the takeaway is that Your husband at the moment is to be alone with himself, and You have deprived him of his constant care of him. Remember that in 7 days he will feel that You are sorely lacking.
Step two. to abreact. When you get fenced off from your husband and he does not see you, you can cry, scream, beat dishes, complain. A well-known fact is that women cope with stress and problems, crying them out to someone else. So, cry to a man who can understand and support you.
Do not constantly think about her husband's infidelity. Walk through the city. take a walk in the Park , enjoy shopping. Buy yourself something that has long been dreamed of, but still could not afford. Spend your time and money only on yourself. Enjoy life and freedom!
Step three. true. You have coped with emotion and realized the betrayal of her husband? Now face the truth and ask yourself: why did it happen and whether you want to continue to be with him. Perhaps that you turned from a beloved and charming woman into a cook and a nurse with children, and so the husband changed. Then it's time to change and you. In any case, it is worthwhile to think about what exactly you have changed during the years of married life. Return yourself to the former.
Please note that you should not change your husband in revenge for his actions. After all, you will do such a mean act and put your husband in your position.
Step four. negotiations. You have decided to return to his family, and now it's time to sit down with my husband at a round table and to start negotiations. Discuss the situation. ask why it happened. If You are very very hard to hear it and ask, can involve the psychologist.
Do not forget that you should also keep the stamp. Introduce before the husband a new woman, one in which he fell in love. Do makeup and hair, put on a new thing. Show him that you are beautiful and worthy of love.
Step five. to start. As if it may sound paradoxical, but after infidelity many couples re-discover love and relationships in marriage. Moreover, treason can very much bring together spouses. So find the strength to begin building a new life. After all, you know that in fact your husband has always loved and will love you.