Each person is exposed to one or another form of addiction. Most often we are dependent on public opinion, which influences the formation of our attitudes and lifestyle. What is social dependence and is it worth it to fight it?
For a start, it should be clarified that one should not confuse the two terms: "dependence on social networking" and "social dependency". Psychologists began to face dependence on social networks quite recently. The growth in demand for such a resource led to the fact that a great many teenagers and young people became dependent on virtual communication. The reason for this can be called some hidden complexes and unrealized desires, which everyone has. Social networks provide the opportunity for communication, which, for certain reasons, is not enough in real life. They can freely communicate with strangers, live a different life, be represented by another person. Social networks and virtual communication give a certain feeling of psychological security from the opinions of others.
Dependence on social networks is characterized by the fact that people spend most of their time spend on a monitor of the computer constantly being on a social network. The desire to be interesting for others and constant virtual communication are the main signs of dependence.
Social dependence differs from the above. Here, people become totally dependent on public opinion. It is impossible to completely protect yourself from the society, so many people start to listen to public opinion. Thus, people begin to change their lives and actions so that they receive an approving assessment from those around them. Since everyone is among other people, then such a dependence is almost everyone.
Another negative manifestation of social dependence is the inability to make their own decisions. So people just following the stereotypes that had formed in his head: "my decision does not mean anything", "we must listen to the opinion of others". Social dependence causes people to obey the system: without guidance and examples from the not possible to work.
Social dependence greatly affects the self-esteem. People become totally dependent on the evaluation of others. If a person is constantly praised, supported, called beautiful and intelligent, as a result, he will get an inflated self-esteem. To underestimate self-esteem - constant criticism will be more than enough. No one is born a formed person. In the process of forming their own "I" people constantly listen to others, to their opinion, as if trying on themselves to other people's demands, opinions and feelings. Thus, we ourselves create our dependence on others.
Social dependency requires not only combat, but also her awareness. As each of us depend on the opinions of others in varying degrees, it may be advisable to simply understand that others do not care about our lives. Do not make excuses for their actions and mistakes. Only the parents and very close people can actually to worry about us.
To break free from social dependence, it should be understood that it can attract, and why it is so difficult to abandon the familiar life. Like any habits, social addiction can be replaced by something else, harmless to the psyche. Often, psychologists advise choosing a few new hobbies that will help to shift attention to other aspects of life. There are new interests that embrace new spheres of life, until this time unknown.
Also get rid of social dependence is very good for relaxation. For this, you can go to nature, take a walk in the forest or go fishing. You can do needlework. Just have to try to stay alone, and it's not so scary. Over time, everyone realizes that social dependency and the opinion of others should not affect his life.