We all know that man is mortal. But still, the death of loved ones is always a shock, even if it was not unexpected. To recover from such a loss is very difficult. How to survive the death of a loved one?

When a loved one dies, it seems that life will never be happiness, their future seems bleak. And since in modern world it is accepted "be strong," their sorrow people often keep to themselves, trying not to cry in public. But this only aggravates the situation. To survive the death of a loved one without serious emotional trauma, no need to artificially restrain yourself beyond measure .


The first stage (from several hours to two weeks) is numbness and shock{!LANG-193e4f5379097b44d9d1be6e9b16f4aa!}

During this period it is important not to restrain themselves{!LANG-1f13f9fac1e6617b17479444fa1cb0e9!}

After the funeral, a period of denial, which lasts about forty days. Intellectually, we understand his loss, but our subconscious mind refuses to accept it. At this time people can hear the steps of the deceased, to see him among the passers-by is normal. Well, if during this period the deceased at least sometimes dream. The absence of dreams of the dead, on the contrary, may be a sign of problems with the experience of grief. During this period, you can and should talk about the dead. Tears are good too, if you don't cry all day long.

Lasts up to six months the period of adoption loss and stay pain{!LANG-7196b8d69e7aa64483a13d5b691d003b!}

In the middle of this period, about three months after the death, sometimes there is a "failure" caused by exhaustion, severe exacerbation of pain. At this stage may appear unpleasant feelings, but constructive :

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  • the feeling of aggression towards the deceased (are you angry because he dumped you)
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All these feelings are normal, if they don't last long!{!LANG-251b480ba5a12b56ef1ec5498987975f!}

Then the pain eases, and by the end of the first year after death, life is slowly getting back to normal. By this time people are usually fully accepts the fact that the person died acquires new acquaintances. The deceased is remembered as alive and not as dead, the memories of these pleasant. During this period, it seems that you could be able to cope with their grief.

But the first anniversary of the death usually occurs a new burst of grief{!LANG-fd685bd70dd873435d5dc3611b012b09!}

Therefore, you should not try to suppress their grief. Recover from the death of a loved one is not easy, but the best healer is time{!LANG-df7d138036159765f1feff1dd19a2cf6!}