Conducting interviews: basic rules
Human communication is regulated by certain rules, often unwritten. Before the conduct of the conversation it was the whole art, but now many people forget about the basic rules of communication. Let's remember some of them.
The conduct of the conversation always has a purpose. we never communicate with people "just like that." Even if we communicate "about nothing", we do it for a reason, but to enjoy communicating with a pleasant person or "for diplomatic purposes" - to maintain good relations with the person in question. The basic rules of conversation are simple, but for some reason we often forget them. In addition, the more people participate in the conversation, the more difficult it is to observe these rules.
Let's start. from the very beginning. Are you referring to since the beginning of the conversation. If you are going to enter the conversation that is already in full swing, no need to rush. first listen, understand the essence of the conversation, then decide whether it will be appropriate for your participation in this conversation.
If you start the conversation first, be careful about the topic. it should be interesting for everyone (or at least for most) present. In an unfamiliar company, you should not talk about politics or religion, raise family topics - in general, the topic of conversation should not be too personal or potentially controversial.
Proper conduct of the conversation requires the ability not only to speak but also to listen. In the conversation involved several people, and it means that the ability to speak is a must. The conversation should not turn into a monologue, so watch yourself. If "grouse on a Lek" becomes someone of the interlocutors, try to gently hint to him that other people want to speak.
When you ask questions, don't answer in monosyllables (for example, simply "yes" or "no"). Such answers often discourage people from any desire to conduct a conversation, as they demonstrate a lack of interest on your part (even if in fact it is embarrassment or fatigue). Even if you have nothing to answer to the question, except "yes" or "no", try to expand the answer a little, so that it does not sound so abruptly.
If the conversation is not glued, you can try to defuse the situation with a joke. But jokes must be chosen very carefully, especially in unfamiliar company. There is always a risk that your acuteness can offend anyone present. Therefore, avoid jokes about certain groups of people (nationality, profession, etc.), ambiguous jokes. In general, if a joke makes you even the slightest doubt - do not joke.
In the course of the conversation can rise disputes and disagreements. No matter how strong the temptation to defend your point of view, you do not need to lose respect for the interlocutor. Of course, no one is saying that you should abandon your opinion, but to object to someone you need unobtrusively and gently, avoiding harsh words and insults. Do not force anyone their opinion and their views, don't make fun of someone else's point of view.
During conversation watch out for his speech. Try to refrain from using specific slang, professional jargon and rarely used foreign words, which may be incomprehensible to many of those present. And, of course, no rudeness. Of course, a lot depends on who you are talking to - in the company of close friends the boundaries of the permissible are significantly expanding - but do not forget about the elementary rules of decency.
In General, conducting interviews is subject to the fundamental principle, applicable in almost any situation: don't tell the person what they do not want to hear. The conversation should be based on mutual respect, only if this condition is met, all the interlocutors will be satisfied with the conversation and with each other.