Parents often complain about the complete lack of control of their children. These children do not respond to persuasion or punishment, they constantly climb "where you should not", first getting into a fight. Looking for unmanaged child the impression that he knows no standards of behavior at all. How to cope with a runaway child?
Almost all parents sooner or later, complain of periodic "ungovernability" their children: child throws toys, not listening, maybe throw a tantrum. But these are relatively rare, the phenomenon is not dangerous. It is often this lack of control is just a phase of formation and maturation of the child. It happens that such children are fairly quiet and obediently behave in kindergarten, but at home they turn into little tyrants and literally harass the entire family. Then, most likely, the child feels his impunity and simply doesn't want to follow the rules and requirements of adults.
For hyperactive child as unmanageable as usual. Such a child really can't restrain yourself, even if much wanted. Hyperactive kid randomly switch from one subject to another, which happens to be in his field of vision, no single case does not lead to the end. The child often responds inappropriately, not pondering the meaning of the questions, not listen to what he is told.
This behavior is not a whim of the child, and is connected with the peculiarities of his psyche and physiology. Hyperactive children are usually diagnosed with MBD (minimal brain dysfunction). It is the residual phenomena of organic defeat of a brain. It occurs either when the child was still in the womb (eg, severe toxemia or rhesus-conflict), or childbirth, or due to severe diseases in the first months after birth.
Hyperactivity is a disease, though the symptoms are not similar to the "classic set" of the patient. This means that a hyperactive child needs treatment. Whether it's treatment with medication or psycho-pedagogical, depends on the cause of hyperactivity. If there are organic disorders of the nervous system, without drugs can not do. But even in this case, is not cancelled patient and persistent vaccination the rules of behavior of a child.
As parents to deal with unruly child?
An unruly child is storm and chaos, so parents need try to arrange life and inner peace your baby. Hyperactive children just need a strict regime of the day. You can even post them on the wall detailed a schedule that the child should be seen as something nepodvlastnoj neither his will nor the will of the parents.
But when you schedule, your parents you should consider the needs of your child. sometimes he just can't fulfill the requirement or request immediately. Therefore, we must reckon with the fact that this child will have to repeat my request several times. In this case, it would be useful to inform the child about your requirement in advance. For example, you can warn the child that after 20 minutes it's time to finish the game. After about 10 minutes, warn him again. Then, at the appointed time he will be ready to finish their game, and the nerves of parents.
Parents unmanageable child needs to get used to to communicate with child measured. a soothing tone, without irritation. Otherwise, in a family where both parents and children, start with a half-turn, constant exhausting of scandals can not be avoided.
The overabundance of bright impressions harmful for the unmanaged child. Better when parents notice that the baby starts to go into Overdrive, to offer the child to go to rest and not wait for the beginning of "the tempest". To help the child "get over it", you can ask him simple questions on interesting topics. Then the child will be forced to think about their answers and return to a calm state.
Unmanaged child need to be able to vent his energy. To direct this energy in a peaceful course will help sports, dancing, outdoor games in the fresh air.
I think that hyperactivity is more likely connected with the problem of self-realization. The lack of contact information-wow emotionally between the parents and the child creates frustration, which can manifest itself in this way
And I think the hyperactivity and the desire to Express themselves, that is, the same realization is not quite the same thing. In the first case the child is physically not able to calm balanced behavior, and the second just doesn't want, trying to prove your “I”
written about my son. honestly( my husband and I suffer((( there is no power and so began since the early days! every day we hope that this behavior changes((( what doctors to turn to?
Hello my son is 4 years old.Grow up without a father.I don't know what to do.Son absolutely would not listen.Throws toys,screams he does not want to eat. us to kindergarten soon and he is not driven.on the street picked up a bad word.and now constantly tells them.good trying to explain that bad words and say them only for the bad boys.he tried to explain that toys have to build my own.in General for a good tried and bad. not effect anything. begins to fight so that the work can not get out of for bruises,bites about the mode, I generally keep quiet.all they say is education.but how to fix it if a good does not take,and when I swear or no belt on the ass and give he laughs and continues on.Help I don't know what to do.
And I'm sure I wrote about my daughter.She is 2,5 years old and it is really unmanageable in the good we have forgotten how to communicate with her.And what's amazing is that she has a very high pain threshold,it is possible to peel and the priest,and so that I have the hand becomes red and whining from the pain.She shut himself the finger falls out of their chairs and nothing,a few tears and sobs-appearances-and all went on about their business.So the use of force,slap on the butt,a hand when picking lip etc.-does not work absolutely.At a good can do not even attempt to say,in the best case you're going to ignore.And all this despite the fact that I am a VERY strict mother,not giving descent and concessions.Try that was discipline,but it is simply impossible to achieve when the most crazy already.
Natalia, I have the same problem. Son 2.5 years, we went to a neurologist, we have appointed treatment. Still enrolled in school early development. I hope at least it will help.
Dear mom, look around you, the world around us is changing very rapidly and this is reflected in the new generations of children. Our children correspond to the saturated, fast, bright world which surrounds them. Too many stimuli: bright colors, loud noises, new experiences every day. I have the most toys from sounding crazy, but what about the nervous system of a small child. And this trend to develop and stimulate. Yes, our children have to protect them from the effects of bright, “disposable” environment, what would their psyche could ripen. And yet, we are constantly tergiver and “build” our children and this is another factor stimulating the nervous system and the already woozy from all things baby. So look around and draw conclusions
I absolutely agree with Arina. Our world is crazy and children this can not be reflected. A hyperactive child will help your patience and love. But to kick and scream for these children impossible. Good from such methods will be nothing.