Who excellence? This is not only diligent "studying" in school – excellence is featured throughout. The desire to always perform only "excellent" is now called the buzzword "perfectionism". It would seem that everything is always to do well is nice. But why we are increasingly faced with the problem neurosis honors.
Excellent students, of course, are not born, but they become quite early. If the child "by nature" is calm, balanced, every business started leads to the end, knows how to obey the rules, then his chances to become an excellent student are great. The combination of temperament, upbringing, environmental conditions and make the child an excellent student.
How does the neurosis of excellence?
The term "neurosis" was introduced as early as 1776 by physician Galen. It means this term, in Greek, "nerve disease". That is, by definition, the cause of neurosis lies in the psychological, and not in the physiological state of a person.
Experts identify three main "classical" forms of neurosis.
- obsessive-compulsive disorder
- hysterical neurosis
Each of these forms of neurosis is a disease. So it has its own causes and symptoms. With neurasthenia, the main symptoms are complaints of increased fatigue, decreased academic performance and productivity in other cases, inability to concentrate, physical weakness and exhaustion even after minimal effort, inability to relax. Often neurasthenia is accompanied by headaches, upset stomach, dizziness.
Neurasthenia may occur on the grounds of prolonged stress, prolonged sleep deprivation, mental and physical fatigue. Isn't it, most of the standouts have to experience these factors? Excellent "work" don't assume he "works" for others. It is important that you'll tell mum and dad what mark will put the teacher in the school, you put it in the example to the other children. Hence the constant stress, the tension, the desire to perform even at the cost of additional stress and lack of sleep.
The status of "excellence" - it is almost always certain limitations. But if there are a lot of such restrictions, even if they are voluntary, sooner or later the child has an inner conflict: the conscious attitude "must" come into conflict with, often even unconsciously, "I want". This is one more step towards the development of a neurosis in an excellent student.
The disease never develops on "an empty space" - its development is always preceded by "harbingers", i.e. factors that have already weakened the body's defenses and "prepared the ground" for this disease. So, with violations of the acidity of the stomach, gastritis, the likelihood of getting a stomach ulcer increases significantly.
Neurosis also arises "out of nowhere". Experts distinguish even Pridneprovsky character. which is formed from a more or less complete combination of the following features:
- suspiciousness, shyness, insecurity, distrust
- excessive dependence on significant individuals, shifting to them all responsibility for their lives and deeds;
- anxiety, predisposition to reinsurance;
- heightened suggestibility
- resentment, a permanent wait state taunts, attacks
- the tendency of long and hard to “experience” their own failures, and in General all the events of his life and the life of the family.
Most of these traits are inherent to honors. It is the insecurity often forces a student to do well and to earn the praise and approval of adults. The student is afraid to "two", and so will be ten times to be safe. Getting "four", not to mention the top three or two, permanently knocks a student out of a rut.
But then, well, any honors pupil is doomed to a neurosis? Of course not! Parents of the child-pupil should be especially careful to monitor his work in school and at home. Does the child really do something as he wishes, or does he try only for the sake of parents and teachers? If a child has violence over himself, he can not "lawfully" remove the "extra load" from himself. Then the body itself finds a way out - a neurosis.
Can the neurosis of honors pass on its own? Sometimes it is enough just to find and eliminate the cause that caused the "launch" of a neurosis, as the symptoms of the disease disappear. But this does not always mean the disappearance of the disease itself. Only a qualified specialist can correctly identify the causes of neurosis and prescribe treatment.