The character and temperament of the child
The character of the child – what will he be like in the future? Is it possible to affect the character formation of the child? These questions, and then there are the young parents. This is not surprising, because of the nature of the child depends largely on his future success as a person.
The nature of the child – is not a given and the child does not have a particular nature from birth. However, the basic traits inherent in the little man genetically they are determined by the type temperament. So, from the phlegmatic one should not wait for turbulent emotions, omnipresent curiosity, but the sanguine-laughter can not be reassured: he is active, cheerful, frisky.
In addition to the type of temperament on the formation of child's character is influenced by its interaction with the surrounding world, the society. And of course, education plays an important role here. Parents, kindergarten teachers, school teachers - they all take a direct part in the upbringing of the child, but we should not forget about the upbringing that gives the child contact with peers.
To monitor the formation of the character of the child and guide him in the right "direction" is needed from birth. The first manifestation of the temperament of the baby can be seen at 3-4 months of age: infants with different temperaments react differently to certain events, for example, the appearance of a stranger, a new toy, wet diaper. At the age of eighteen months to two years temperament traits of the child are becoming more apparent. because now the kid also includes speech in his communication.
One of the most common theories basic types of temperament there are four: choleric, sanguine, melancholic and phlegmatic. Another, more modern, classification of temperaments highlights easy (flexible), slowly "heats up" and hard (irritable) types.
The type of temperament of a child due to certain properties of the nervous system. Thus, the predominance of nervous excitation processes over the processes of inhibition in combination with high mobility of the nervous system gives rise to a sanguine or complaisant type of temperament. And, on the contrary, children with pronounced inhibition processes (ability to exercise calmness, contain irritation, etc.) are phlegmatic and slowly "warm up".
To change the type of temperament of the child is impossible, but to adjust its features during the formation of the character of the child – is not only possible, but necessary. Choleric needs to learn to control their emotions, not to waste their strength, to balance their desires with their capabilities.
When raising short-tempered and irritable children parents should pay special attention to the "institution" of prohibitions and punishments: as much as possible of restrictions for a choleric child and a quick-tempered child should be expressed in speech form, and as little as possible in physical form.
The framework of the permitted should be established actively from the very beginning, otherwise it will be necessary to struggle with the negative behavior of the child for a long time. The aggressiveness of the child should be striven to be channeled into a constructive channel.
The approach to the education of children, shy, vulnerable should be somewhat different. Any situation such children endure for a long time, "digest" it in themselves. To "correct" the nature of the child, it is necessary to encourage the child to show initiative, independence, and encourage him to communicate with other people. Shy children get used to changes for a very long time, to a new environment, so you should always try to ease this period of adaptation for such a baby.
Phlegmatic and sanguine – it would seem that the "light" types of temperament. However, parents often find that child-the sanguine does not hurt to be a little more assiduously, and baby-phlegmatic is not enough mobility.
Calm games will help active children develop such a lackluster assiduity - in the future this character trait is indispensable for working on homework in school, college. Phlegmatic, on the contrary, should be accustomed to mobile games for reaction, otherwise in the future they may miss something important while they "warm up".
Development of the child's personality and character formation – the processes, going "hand in hand": "heavy", the grim nature of the child is difficult to become a successful individual, confident in their abilities. So parents, it is important with great attention to shaping a child's character and to exert maximum effort to ensure that the baby grew harmoniously developed person.