The child has poor appetite: consequences of forcible feeding
Probably, many parents are familiar dining "battles": the mother or grandmother trying to feed the baby, and he resists with all his strength. With what may be due to lack of appetite have a healthy baby? What if the child has a bad appetite?
Generally, the baby may refuse food for many reasons, ranging from unappetizing appearance of the dishes and finishing with the desire to attract attention. All of these reasons we discussed in the article "If the child is naughty for lunch" and return to them in this article will not. Let's talk about the deeper psychological causes of anorexia in children.
One of the common causes of poor appetite is force-feeding. The situation resembles a vicious circle: the child has a bad appetite because the mother feeds him violently. And my mother resorts to forced feeding, because the child has a bad appetite.
Usually in such cases, the child originally refused to eat for some other reason: she did not like him, or he wouldn't eat at a certain time, or. but a million of them, these reasons! Mom fed him by force once, twice, and the child has established a clear Association: food — unpleasant emotions. Formed a stereotype of the relations in which kind of food begins to cause a child protective response: stubbornness and refusal to eat .
A so-called neurotic reaction to food. It can incorporate and manifest slightly differently depending on the type of temperament and character of the child. So, if your child has a docile and gentle nature, the result of forcible feeding can be formed hidden disturbing fear. Such a child will be masked by vagaries at the table.
Often the problem with appetite observed in slow children-phlegmatic. Usually, such a child is slowly - not because it is tasteless, just his temperament is like that. Mom starts to get annoyed, tries to speed up the process, shoving a child into his mouth with a spoonful of food, when he has not yet had time to swallow the previous portion. At some point the child simply begins to refuse to eat to avoid forcible feeding.
If the child is very sensitive and impressionable, it is associated negative emotions (fear, resentment, etc.) with the surrounding environment. If the child is force-fed, it may "backfire" (sometimes not immediately, but in the future) a subconscious fear. Mom had already forgotten that once shoved in the mouth a spoonful of porridge, and sincerely surprised that the child has a poor appetite. This subconscious fear often are not able to defeat even the feeling of hunger .
Sometimes his appetite can be caused by the fact that a child is forced to eat tasteless food in kindergarten. In this case, the house the child is eating normally, but the caregiver or nurse complains to parents that the kindergarten child refuses to eat. Sometimes Vice versa: the child does not eat at home, but eats well at daycare or at a party. These are all signs of neurotic reactions to food .
What to do if a child has a bad appetite? First stop to get him to eat. From the fact that the child does not eat normally once, nothing terrible will happen to him. Hungry - he himself will ask. But you will cease to be for him "a giant with a spoon" (in the words of V. Levy), who forcibly pushes food into him.
It is best to deal with neurotic reactions to food in the form of a game. For example, let the child draw a dinner in the family of some little animals (for example, hedgehogs), and then you will come up with a story about hedgehogs that are poorly eaten. The story should show the child that you can enjoy the meal, that it is not necessary to be capricious at the table, that a full meal is very important. At the same time, it must be positive, not moralistic, and necessarily - with a good end.
Change with the child roles. now you are naughty, but he tries to feed us. Just not necessary wording "in a forehead", without saying: "Now I'm going to be cranky like you." The game should be fun, funny and interesting for the child. You need to play it a few times.
You can try to break the formed stereotype of a meal. Invite the child to move to another place at the table, saying that this place is magical: the one who sits on it, always eats well. If the child usually eats in the kitchen - cover it in the living room or in his room (just not in front of the computer or TV).
Often what the child has poor appetite, is the fault solely of his parents. But everything can be fixed, if you have patience and imagination .