Manners are inculcated from childhood
The first characteristic that the surrounding give the child: educated or ill-mannered. At the same time, we do not always clearly understand what is included in these concepts and what should be the baby in order to win universal approval. There are many sets of etiquette norms, what is the first thing to teach a son or daughter? Manners at the table or courtesy formulas? Or maybe it is too small, and most importantly, what is required, to behave in public is quiet? The topic of today's conversation will be the problem of good manners and teaching them a child. We will answer the question: where do we start and how do we act?
Do as you want others to do unto you
Explanatory dictionaries define "manners" as an external form of behavior, a certain way of communicating with surrounding people. Good manners are, first of all, respectful and tactful attitude to people, unwillingness to offend them not only by their own behavior, but also by speech, tone of voice and even appearance. Manners are a reflection of inner nobility. Thus, we see that good upbringing is achieved not by memorizing the vault of certain (often outdated) rules, but by developing in the child spiritual sensitivity and love for people.
When to start?
"What to take from him, he is still small" - a favorite excuse for those whose children are happy to fight, insult others and roll up hysterics in public places. Wait until you grow up - wrong! It is necessary to explain from an early age what is good, what is bad, what and in what situation is permissible and what is not. The child should grow up in an environment where everyone treats people with due respect, he absorbs it and perceives it as correct and normal.
Do not wait for a miracle immediately, act gradually! First, set the son or daughter to certain rules of conduct. Before going to the site calmly talk about what you can not do and say. If the kid still begins to behave aggressively, take him aside and calmly explain what he is doing wrong. Remind him that you discussed this situation and the options for its development at home. Do not immediately shout, this will cause additional aggression.
Remember that if you want to teach something to a child, you should do it yourself. You can not make him be polite if you yourself are a hamite in the store or public transport. Behave tactfully and in relation to relatives, to the child. Do not interrupt his story, do not forget to say "thank you" and "please."
Despite the fact that the mother is the best model, it is also wrong. Do not be afraid to admit your mistakes, apologize for thoughtless words and deeds. This in no way will reduce your credibility, even on the contrary.
To make the child more easily accept certain rules of behavior, explain them to him during the game. For example, organize a puppet tea, distribute roles, show the child how to behave properly at the table, and how - no. Such role-playing games can be invented a lot: in the store, on the street, in the clinic, etc. Thus, you simultaneously realize several tasks: entertain the baby, help him overcome the tension in communication, give the opportunity to open up, be able to correct shortcomings in behavior in time.
Do not forget that you must always behave correctly, try to make every situation for the child clear and instructive: someone weep at the site, let your baby come up, offer help; if he offended another, remind that it is necessary to approach and apologize, etc.
There are many fascinating children's books about politeness and good manners. One of the best is considered to be the "Alphabet of Courtesy" by Lyudmila Vasilyeva-Gangnus. You can also recommend: "Lesson of politeness" V. Stepanova, a collection of short stories "On correct and incorrect behavior," "Acquaintance with polite words" and "Lessons of kindness" E. Barinova.